Friday, March 19, 2010
Now, it is time to talk about love. As I have mentioned before, the road to love passes through attraction and having satisfactory sexual experiences with sufficient frequency with someone in particular. Love as aforementioned, is an exceptional phenomenal experience. It has been described in poets and songs since the rise of human languages. However, talking in a more scientific fashion, we can define love as a state in which you experience euphoria, high tendency to be with one particular person, shutting of being attracted to any other one, and tendency to have sex frequently with this particular person. In other words, when you are in love, your mind becomes entirely focused on being with the one you love and having sex frequently with this person. Again, love can be explained on evolutionary basis. Human females have a long pregnancy period. In the period, the human female body is greatly exhausted. For the human female to be able to pass through this rough period, she needs to be taken care of. In addition, baby human needs a long period of time to be able to confront life by itself. This period of time is so critical for the existence of the human species. Nature might have come up with love to ensure the cooperation between the father and the mother to ensure the survival of the newly born infant. In other words, nature has wired our brains to fall in love with the person we have sex frequently with to provide adequate circumstances for the expected offspring of this sexual relationship. After having sex frequently with a particular partner, endorphins will be automatically released in high amounts in our brain whenever we encounter this particular person. Those endorphins causes this state of addictive euphoria and it will shut off being attracted to any other one. However, nature is a fool designer. It does mistakes. Its aim is to ensure survival but not happiness of humans. Love can still kick in even if the sexual experiences you had with this other person were all fantasized, and it can still kick in even if this sex doesn't lead into any offspring. In addition, there is no survival benefit in this long term continuity of love. As a matter of fact long term continuity of this state might not be beneficial for human beings. The euphoric state of love which is only associated with being around the one you love might affect your actions for seeking other goals in your life. So, unfortunately for our romantic aspirations, love is a short lived experience. Research concluded that it persists for a period ranging between 3 months to one year, being shorter for males than females. So, is this the end for love? Is love nothing more than just a transient stage that has to end one day? Things are a little bit different than this.